Boys can have erections from before they are born. It has been seen in many fetal ultrasound pictures. They don’t generally have orgasms or ejaculate until adolescence. Most children don’t have much knowledge of or interest in sex until their bodies start to mature. This innocence should probably be maintained as much as is reasonable, because anything that’s psychologically troubling for a child can have effects that last a lifetime.
That’s why our society frowns heavily on pedophilia, sexual interest in children. What may seem like a simple act of kissing or fondling, or even just discussing sexual concepts in the wrong way, can literally damage a child for life. The mental processes that ensue can confuse kids tremendously, resulting in assumptions or conclusions formed in not-fully developed brains that stick in their unconscious minds forever, destroying their self-confidence, and ability to make rational decisions. For instance, a child who’s body has reacted with a pleasurable response to a sexual act will feel that s/he is to blame, is a horrible person, and must work very hard to keep secrets.
I knew a woman in her early sixties who had one failed marriage and could not look men in the eye.
Through hypnotherapy, she was regressed to when she was six years old. She remembered being excited by road construction in front of her house. She ran out to watch the men at work. She got too close to one man who flipped her the bird – He stuck his middle finger up in the air and told her to back off.
The little girl went home and asked her mother what that gesture meant. Her mother said, “Oh, it’s about getting pregnant, Dear.”
The little girl freaked out. She knew at that age being pregnant would be very bad. For days, maybe weeks she worried that she was going to become pregnant. From that point forward, on an unconscious level, she didn’t trust men.
When the therapist uncovered this distant memory, he did some work to help the woman understand the old memory in a new way. That very weekend, she was able to go dancing and enjoy being with men for the first time in her life.
Not everyone has access to hypnotherapy or can resolve situations so easily. So, let’s be careful to avoid any incorrect influences or interactions with children.